My boyfriend tells me to seek employment in the area HE lives.
I say that is not reasonable because I do not live in his area, hence a catch-22 situation. After we marry, he has asked that I sell my home and put the money toward his residence (he had to take out a large amount to pay off his ex). One possible reason your boyfriend's son does not like you may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with his parent's divorce.
You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix.
It's not fair to the kids if you aren't going to stick around.
So figuring out when and how to start dating after a divorce can be a real dilemma for a divorced dad.