Forget those demented TV ads for dating sites, where toothy zealots espouse the buzz of it all. Chance encounters with witty hunks are movie-only occurrences. Call me defeatist, but since I started working from home the opportunities for striking up amusing banter are reduced. I fondly recall the one who was a newly arrived immigrant, and spoke little English ("I am mostly improvings my dwelling unit") but was unusually keen to marry soon.Anyone who has tried it knows it can be a unique form of un-fun. There was another who had narrowed down his specified age preference to "between 18 and 80." And the guy who expressed a preference for "women in sensible shoes." Where I come from, women in sensible shoes aren't all that interested in men generally.Even though her badly spelt, grammatically incorrect profile suggested she liked "knocking the cups out of homeless people's hands" and "convincing people I'm pregnat lol." They continued to hit on her even when she said she would tattoo them and pull out their teeth. Anyone who has gone online dating will know that it’s a fairly predatory pool of sex-hungry souls who click through these lonely corridors of faces.
I tried everything from tindr, to Jswipe, to grindr, to every other word that is missing an "e" in it.
I made lots of matches, talked to lots of "interesting" men and even went on a fair number of first dates.
However, the problem arises when you finally do get excited, but continue to keep swiping because why not? No One Was Ever Who I Thought They Were As you make matches, swipe past people and possibly converse you start to build an idea of who the person is on the other side of the phone.
You create an ideal, and all of a sudden every little nuance becomes a bigger complexity to who that person is, and how they operate. He either starts creeping real hard, says something that throws everything off, disappears or just never decides to meet up.
What this actually constitutes most often is a laugh-free hour or so of Making Conversation. I have lost count of the "dates" where the man has asked no questions at all, certainly none about the person sitting opposite.